OK....I will go inbetween.....have a few snacks available and not stress about it. It seems more normal.
Thank you mlj - for your response.....no worries....write as much as you are comfortable with...I am sorry to hear your H is being so mean and just unapproachable. That must be so painful and I just don't have an answer for that. Its unfortunate that they have to become jerks while already putting us thru such emotional turmoil.
Its so encouraging to hear about your sis....I wish them continued happiness....and my thought are with you as you go thru this unfortunate process yourself.
Remember (as I often forget) the journey in life is to better ourselves. Its up to us how WE utilize the people around us and the situations surrounding us .......to better our own journey.
As far as the "M" my H wants to come back to......My only plan is to be light and fun.
I like your idea - traveldane - about letting him take the initiative on the R talk. It takes the pressure off of me. Thanks for your response. I was worried about the plane ticket so it was nice to hear someone else's take on that. Although H gave me a very nice positive response.......I no longer trust the short term happiness or supposed positive responses from him......when I am so worried about our longeveity.....
But, I will take it easy and just relax and be happy that he is coming for a visit. Nothing heavy from me....I will listen and validate...Thanks for reminding me "I don't always have to roar!" I loved that!
I will report back. Hopefully, I will not have lost my cool or my sanity with his "explanation" or lack therof for the D.
