confused.....want to do something.....

[traveldane]

Orchid,

Easy does it. The place does not have to be Martha Stewart approved. Have snacks, but not a full spread-evidence of too much planning might equal pressure to H.

I say keep it light, the whole time. This is the hardest thing to follow. I failed miserably about it when WAH and I used to spend time, then got better at it before the big chill. Let him take the lead on the R. talk. I know you need some answers, some direction, but honestly, if he does not bring it up...let him leave without it happening. If he doesn't initiate the talk, I think its best not to push him to. Push will result in him pulling away...wait until he climbs down off the fence in case the pressure causes him to feel he needs to jump to the side that you don't want to see him go to, just because he can't commit to R at this point. Have a code word, in your head. If you start to feel yourself get out of control...clingy, angry, pushing forward...say your code word to yourself and redirect.

Calm, cool, lighthearted, busy full life, confident. You ARE woman. But woman does not need to roar all the time.

Also, I think that helping him out with the plane ticket was nice.

Good luck, will be thinking of you. Report back!