I also have an issue with the ring. When I'm wearing it, I start thinking why should I be wearing it because he could care less. So then I put it in my jewelry box for a while. Then I start missing it, and put it on again. He took his off a year ago when he started the ILYBINILWY thing. I was thoroughly caught off guard. Since then, wised up, found this sight, and found him to be the model MLC'r. It was amazing to read all the words here that he had been saying. Bomb was dropped six months later, and he filed ten days before Christmas. It was probably what Skank wanted for Christmas. Since then, we are still living in the same house ( him in the guest room ) with the divorce supposedly in process. He did his own paperwork, but I retained an attorney, as he didn't want me to have anything. Very out of character for him. My attorney couldn't get over how mean he was being. Living with him while this is going on is so hard. He's made no effort to move out. I feel that this is my home, he's the one that's messing up this marriage, and why should I move out. Did I mention how hard this is? LOL
As for buying them what they like to eat, go with what your heart is telling you to do. In my case, I still buy H his fav foods, because that is what feels right for me. I have always treated him with unconditional love, because I know the man I fell in love with and married is in there somewhere.
I also have a younger sister, we are ten years apart. She divorced her H, and they got remarried after a year apart. This was many years ago, and to look at them, you would think they were newlyweds. She has told me that sometimes a divorce has to happen just to clear the air.
I've done enough hijacking for awhile! LOL
I will continue to keep your father in my prayers. As for you, continue to stay strong. Remember we can't control the situation. If your marriage is what you want, show him someone he would like to come home to. Just my opinion.
