I, for one, exposed the affair to my kids and it ended. My kids were in the age range of 18-23 at the time. Not little kids. Old enough to have relationships of their own and have ideas about how relationships should be. I am a strong proponent of exposure, not necessarily to the kids, but each case must be judged by its own circumstances. I know what I did in my case not only worked but it was the right approach. I didn't shame my husband. He shamed himself. And we reconciled better than ever with a little help from retrouvaille.
