Unfortunately, W gave me the cold shoulder tonight. I asked about her day and she said it was "not good." Didn't ask anything more b/c she did not seem like she wanted to talk, and, dammit, I just didn't feel like talking to her.
Find time for the book. It is worth it, believe me. Before my sitch, I was never a self help book reader (like most men), but now, I am reading everything I can get my hands on to improve myself.
My take (which is only one of many here, and by no means THE authority) is that DB is about improving yourself. Make youself the best person, spouse, mother/father you can be. Along the way, you begin to realize that no matter what, you will be ok. And you will - I know that's hard to understand right now, but it is true. Once you realize you will be ok no matter what, the fear that paralyzes all of us at first, goes away or becomes manageable. That gives you freedom from what your H can control and inflict upon you.
