I agree with your IC that you did the right thing. Isn't it just so hard to leave them and go out to do your own thing but, It is something that needs to be done. Keep up with your boundries as im'e still working on that.
I have been in the same situation as you are with your back. I had an extruded disc in the lower back L5/S1 and had to have surgery. when the opain is radiating around/down usually it is a bulging disc at least. ask a Dr. or maybe the Chiropractor about Macenzie therapy it helps for the back and is very good at keeping the disc in place.
Movement always helps as it helps the disc back into place.
Have a great day CL.
JAK
Last edited by JoJo's circus; 06/15/0901:00 PM.
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
Jak and Grace, Thanks for the tips about my back problem. I've increased my visits to the chiropractor to 2X/week. I'm not going to be too conservative, and allow this problem to get worse.
The daily walking, natural antiinflammatories, and chiropractic adjustments all seem to help. I'm able to sit for longer periods of time, though still need a hard surface.
I think I relied too much on the yoga and dancing for my exercise. With the amount of sitting I do daily, I need to move more often, so have started walking my dog daily, if only for 20-30 minutes.
I'm hopeful that I can work thru this problem, by the end of the month. Fortunately, my dancing isn't affected, and probably helps.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
I've been meaning to pop over and visit you for a while and now I found you! I read that you are a Cesar Milan fan. I've found so many helpful things on his shows and in the book that I have. It is very interesting how many of the principles seem to be applicable to human R's as well.
I hope your back continues to feel better. Not sure about you, but back pain tends to make me cranky.
Take care!
Me 39 H 38 T22/M15 S11 S7 EA Confirmed 3/11/09 Sep Weekdays Only 4/09
Jak and IL, I think the back is getting better. I'm making a point to walk daily. I'm somewhat stiff when I start from a day of sitting, and am loose by the end of the walk. The shooting pain down the buttocks is less frequent, and less intense. I don't grimace from it anymore. Sitting on soft surfaces is still a problem, but I can sit on hard surfaces for a longer period of time. I danced last night for two hours, without any problem. Movement seems to help. Whatever was on the nerve, seems to be shifting away from it. I see my chiropractor again this week.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
Matilda, IL, and Jak, I have a dance workshop I'm looking forward to this weekend. It's with a different set of instructors and studio, so it will be a change of pace. It's a partnership fundamentals class. There's a rumba lesson tonight at the ballroom chapter dance. We'll see how the back is holding up after a workshop.
My W ordered a carryout from a favorite restaurant, and the three of us had a nice dinner after work, early Friday evening.
My W's sister and BIL are having marital problems, and the BIL has announced that he will be leaving at the end of the year. There are two children involved, with one of them being autistic. We spent dinner discussing their situation.
My plan is to allow connection in the household, but to not pursue my W to do anything as a public couple. Invitations will be considered individually.
I've been asked to attend a family picnic at her sisters who lives locally. I'll likely drive myself and the dog, and stay for a few hours, and then leave.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
Did you relate it back to your marriage at all? Does your wife have an opinion on what they should do (i.e. try to work things out? Does she "blame" her sister or BIL?).
Is the "op" invited to the family picnic as well? How does her family view you? Him?
Hope the dance workshop is enjoyable! Sounds like a lot of fun!
Did you relate it back to your marriage at all? Does your wife have an opinion on what they should do (i.e. try to work things out? Does she "blame" her sister or BIL?).
Is the "op" invited to the family picnic as well? How does her family view you? Him?
Matilda, I said that I hope that they can work things out, and that maybe a separation will be a catalyst for them to make some changes.
My W's opinion is that her sister is the one who is unreasonable to live with and is blaming her H for being mean to her. She also believes that her sister paints herself as a victim and won't acknowledge her issues and make the needed changes.
I don't know if her friend is invited or not. Her sister is considering hiring him as a live-in nanny. It would save him some expenses, and give him a place to board his horses. He's considering it. My W is trying to discourage him from puruing it, as she thinks her sister is unreasonable to work for.
I think this sister views him as my W's friend. They like me, but probably think I tolerate too much from my W. The BIL told me once that he couldn't believe I don't have a drinking problem.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
