I believe the reason they seem "calm" about the M is they have rewritten history and are comfortable in beleiving the new story they created somehow the delusional state seems to work for them, so in the beginning they seem peacefully numb at times Later after a few years of replay they seem a mess the new R is not as perfect as they once thought
the faith is what keeps us going to know God is in control we the LBS will be ok as you have read most of the LBS post after years of this they are doing well the pain eases we focus on our lives and parent our kids well peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow