"Exposure" vs. "Shame"

[RustyShackleford]

...nor do I think Mark is (although he can speak for himself).

Puppy

Well, permit me to...

I have not exposed my wife's first extramarital relationship to anybody within a 25 mile relationship (yeesh, "affair" sounds to romanticized for my taste... we need a different term). I have told none of her family (siblings, cousins, etc.), none of my family (though they DO suspect). I have not told the neighbors, nor have I told anybody at church. For a couple of reasons.

First, I didn't want to do it out of revenge. Sirach 28: "The vengeful will suffer the Lord's vengeance, for He remembers their sins in detail." Yikes. Doesn't sound too appealing to me. Second, we all know that you can't "unring" a bell. Once the bell is rung, the sound is out there. I wanted to be deliberate and expose the initial extramarital relationship for the right reasons. I never had a good one, so I didn't (she is now running around on me, staying out all night, and the kids know about this, so, as I see it, it's open season on this info).

Anyway, my point has nothing to do with exposing the extramarital activities, and everything to do with standing up for what's right, and not tolerating disrespectful behavior. If, in the course of standing up for yourself and what is right, the adulterous relationship is exposed, then so be it. But I do disagree with exposing for the sake of exposing. Sounds to vengeful too me.

Just my opinion...