I have been trying to catch up on your thread. See that things are not any better and I sure hate that for you.
I am going to bring up a subject that I can't remember if it has been discussed or not. Maybe when you first came on board......but, my memory is not what it used to be.... I was thinking about how young she is and it's not that you are very old yourself, however, that particular age in one's life is what makes a difference. Not how many "years" older you are than she is, but the fact she is in her early 20's says that she has not done enough "living"...as far as she is concerned. If she was in her 50's and you were 11 years older than her, it wouldn't make that much of a difference. At your age, you have probably sewed your wild oats and ready to settle down, however, she hasn't been out of high school that many years. I can't help but wonder if that doesn't have a lot to do with her behavior. I think that M and motherhood hit her hard and she discovered it wasn't as much "fun" or glamorous as she thought it would be. After the "new" wears off, then reality sets in. So, what do you think? Do you believe that all her heading out to party is due to her age or do you think she would feel this restlessness anyway? How mature to you think she is to face grown up "life"? Don't mean to make her sound like a little child, but to me.....she is. (lol) Just kidding. I won't discuss my age here, but she is very young. I was M and had a baby at her age and found myself very disillusioned with M and having a baby.
Anyway, just wondered about all of that and if I have brought it up before, just over-look me, please.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I was thinking about how young she is and it's not that you are very old yourself, however, that particular age in one's life is what makes a difference. Not how many "years" older you are than she is, but the fact she is in her early 20's says that she has not done enough "living"...as far as she is concerned. If she was in her 50's and you were 11 years older than her, it wouldn't make that much of a difference. At your age, you have probably sewed your wild oats and ready to settle down, however, she hasn't been out of high school that many years. I can't help but wonder if that doesn't have a lot to do with her behavior. I think that M and motherhood hit her hard and she discovered it wasn't as much "fun" or glamorous as she thought it would be. After the "new" wears off, then reality sets in. So, what do you think? Do you believe that all her heading out to party is due to her age or do you think she would feel this restlessness anyway? How mature to you think she is to face grown up "life"? Don't mean to make her sound like a little child, but to me.....she is. (lol) Just kidding. I won't discuss my age here, but she 
