I get it... we don't choose who we love... we only get to choose how or if we will act on it.
I look at this way, the last time my exh got angry, I put him out. When I sat down with my d. she asked me if she had to hate him - I told her she didn't have to hate him. She told me that she knew he was doing bad things but she still loved him and wanted to know if that was ok. I thought about it and reassured her that we can both love someone, and not like their behavior. I reminded myself of that all the time. I just learned to choose more wisely. So will you.
