btw, if your goal is NOT to save your marriage, then I wouldn't expose (although I wouldn't lie to anyone who asked me a direct question, either). I'm only a proponent of exposure as a technique to try and save the marriage.
Puppy
I see no reason to look at this as a marriage that can be saved. If this was the first bomb, and all I knew was what she told me...maybe I would go that route.
Knowing what I know now, and how far their relationship has progressed(as bizarre as it is), I believe anything I do know will be seen by her as more controlling...more hanging on...more trying to change her mind.
....and what I have seen and read, as much as it has helped wake me up and get to this point...just makes me sick.
Just want to move on some how. For now, I have to and I know there is no way to know what the future will bring.
The thoughts of exposing the affair are probably more vindictive than anything else.
I have FB and email passwords...I went through this fantasy in my head in which I posted the whole story on her page and changed the password so it could stay there for all to see.
