Children need consistency. You provide that. Children trust blindly and unless or until you betray that trust on a level that is damaging, you will always have it. You will always have K's trust. He will destroy her trust of that I am sure. Regarding the situation with the brother, when the time comes and you can start to see her questioning things or any hurt in her eyes when she comes back from being with them, you will be a good mother and let her know how much you love her. Your love will be enough for her. You can always get the advise of a counselor as to how to handle this with K so that she can maitain her confidence and self esteem and find an age appropriate way of telling her the truth. It will do you no good to sugar coat the person her father is and what role her step mother played in her life but there is a way to be honest but kind and gentle about it so that she never questions her role in any of it and can make her own judgements about them and their behavior. Your goal will be to help you daughter love her father, faults and all. If you can do this, she will grow up healthy and strong.
