Thank you Creed your comments make a whole lot of sense and so true he is the one that has shut out the past to concentrate on his future regardless of us. And yes he is blinded by the attention he is getting from her at the moment. Inevitably this will wear off in time and then they are left with LIFE with its ups and downs. My only wish is that he will one day realise what he has done and how his behaviour has affected not just me but his children also and hope that he is still able to sleep at night.