You can't logically explain it to her. You're trying to win some sort of logical DEBATE with her, rather than dealing with her on her level (emotionally).
Classic Mars and Venus stuff.
Go back and re-read your thread. How many times have you re-posted the same thought: "She's being unfair . . ." "How can I make her see . . . " etc.
IT IS WHAT IT IS. Deep down, she doesn't believe that anyway, so don't worry so much about it. She knows what she did was wrong, and she knows it's not the same. So what??
Work on YOU, work on being CONSISTENT with your changes, and STAY THE COURSE.
