Divorce looming #14

[MrBond]

Kevin,

Let's repeat AGAIN. No one has ever told you not to work on your M or that you don't believe in D, etc. etc. etc.

But how self-righteous were you when you were drinking? Were YOU thinking about God and how you were hurting your M? Not just for a few months, but evidently it was YEARS.

All the problems and solutions you've listed above you've repeated time and time again. Stopping drinking cold turkey doesn't deal with the issues and problems that happened before.

Then the one time you go to see a C to deal with your undealt issues, you don't even give the guy the benefit of the doubt.

Do you remember that LONG list of things that your W said she didn't like about you that you posted here? Have you SERIOUSLY addressed any of them? NO. It always comes back to how you can't understand your W. Well guess what, we all undertand your W and it's all detailed in that list. You want to find out what makes your W tick? Tattoo that list to your arm. Address those issues over and over and over again. Pray for forgiveness in you and your W.

You want to talk about God, Jesus, etc. Well the top thing He teaches if FORGIVENESS. You have to forgive her. And that begins by addressing the issues that you have so that you can show compassion for others without judgement. There's only one judge and He's sittin' up there in the clouds. You can't judge your W as much as she can't judge you.

One thing that stood out is how you said how precious your 7y.o. is and yet in the same sentence, refer to her as a turd. I would NEVER refer to my 6 y.o. as that even in a joking manner. You love her and she acts up sometimes. Period. You might not think it's a big deal, but what if your W said that? Suddenly you'd say that your W is a bad mother because she said your D was a turd. How about losing that line of thought with your kids first. Stop being so judgemental. If you don't think you are, then I suggest you re-read the things that you've written here.

You are praying for the wrong thing. You don't pray for reconciliation. You pray for forgiveness and the knowledge, understanding and compassion that comes along with it. None of us are perfect. Hell I'm learning every day.

Think I'm wrong? Print out my post and give it to your pastor. See what he thinks. Then you'll have it verified by someone who talks to God on a regular basis.