Newbie - first post and ?s

[Faith2010]

Good luck!

I plan (in 2 weeks) on going to see a friend for a weekend in VA after taking S to grandparents house. H doesn't know. The only reason to tell beforehand is cause of 2 dogs and H works 24 shifts. I'm afraid to tell H too far ahead of time cause H might try to find a way to meet with OW...who lives far away. But I can't control that,right? However, that possibly scares me to death.