Thanks for covering this. I have to say that the one thing that absolutely sucks about this whole A business is the trust issue. I'm trying my hardest to get past that, and though it has gotten better with the help of reading and this board, it still gets tough. There are just things that tend to trigger the insecurities again (like her daydreaming) and that panic bubbles up to the surface again.
One of the reasons I wanted to ask the question though was to find out if this was all part of the process for a WAS who has had an A. The daydreaming part. I think sandi and others might have mentioned something about it, so I was curious.
Things are going well right now, so I guess I was getting a little complacent in the GAL dept. It's almost like how things were before the bomb, sans the intimacy. You are all right in saying that I had been viewing her under a microscope and I it basically stems from fear. Not the fear of losing her, but the fear of being cheated on again. I learned the first time that I wasn't going to tolerate that again and would boot her out the door again if it happened. That's my boundary.
So I WILL ramp up the attraction dept. by continuing to concentrate on me.
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Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
