Bonny,

All I can really say at this point is that there are 2 things you have in favor to help negotiate the situation in knowing your H for so long:

1-what not to say or do and turn the situation awry

2-what to say or do to correct #1.

Me 35/XW 33
S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11