Hey Mish.. I hear you about Gabe.. and its completely innapropriate to shout at him, after the D and him moving out and all the confusion anyway on the poor boy, neverlone that he is in teh autism spectrum so perhaps yes, he needs to have different expectations of him right now??? I think you are right to limit access to Gabe, sadly, as long as they dont throw that back at you when he's older. Its a fine line to tread hey.

So, you cant pay the bills or afford food now... whats happening with you not wanting to ask your Mum for more money out of her allowance? Can you just tell her.. Mum, I need some more money from you, for the next few months until I get back on my feet??

I dont know what I am going to do either.. I have been looking for a job all day, but with 2 million unemployed here (thats bad) and particularly bad sitch in Cornwall with redundanices, I cant find a job !! First time ever, since I started work at 15.

I cant believe you met a man online and went for a coffee date!! Wow, you kept that quiet from all of us. Please dont say "I'm never doing that again"..how about, not for NOW, or maybe, exchange some emails before deciding to meet next time?? You have SOOOO much to give a new partner, your warm and funny and gorgeous and smart and spunky and.. oh I could go on, but I hate to think of you closing off the chance to find love someday. But well done for going, very brave !! But, maybe online dating is too risky...

My top tip for finding a nice, intelligent, responsible man is... go to a martial arts class !!! That kind of discipline attracts sweet, thoughtful guys.. loads of them in my class AND they are all fit and hunky and you get to grapple with them up close, bare chested whilst they are practically wearing pyjamas !!! laugh

Love Al xxx

Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs
IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08
Reconciled 05/09 now married!
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