I have been somewhat catching up on your situation and the part of how your wife acted on your wedding night brought back memories.
My stbx and I had a very small wedding and reception. We didn't go anywhere for our honeymoon but back to our apartment. After watching tv for about an hour he proceeds to go get in bed and says he has a headache leaving me up watching more tv. I guess right then and there I should have figured how my marriage was going to be.