WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 10

[confusedinpa]

Thanks for the support and optimism.

I'm trying to maintain a positive attitude - surprisingly how much easier it is to be positive about the job loss than the divorce bomb. Not sure if it's been the practice I've put in over the last 5 months or what.

I am a little disheartened today as I was expecting some responses to my resume applications, but I know that is too much to ask for.

I also got a call from my wife to let me know that she was able to get her work discount for the cell phone I had to get on Monday. I thanked her for it and then she asked what I wanted to do about Sunday. We have tickets to a baseball game for Father's day. We had bought them about a week before she moved out.

She asked if I wanted her to go or did I want to ask her dad or whatever. I told her that I was still planning on all of us going. She then asked if how we want to handle Sunday as normally she picks them up in the morning. I told her that I hadn't given it any thought, but my initial reaction would be for her to come over so we could have lunch before we left. We had a bad cell connection so I asked her to think about it and we can talk again when we have a better connection.

I do agree with you suggestion of not talking about the divorce as much as possible. I was actually going to call up my lawyer to see if it's just a legal ploy on her part to delay any further proceedings until we got past this latest bomb. But, decided against it as it really doesn't change what I'm doing.

I do appreciate the surprisingly high level of concern from my wife. I think she is worried about this pushing me into a depression where I'd do something stupid. I had said some irrational things the nite that she hit me with the bomb. In hindsight, I think that really made things worse for me.

I am approaching this job loss as an opportunity to change the direction of my career and get something that is more relaxing or makes me happy. Of course, I need to find out what that is.

I had talked to a recruiter that I had used before. She and I had really spent a lot of time chatting several years ago as she was trying to place me in my most recent position. I told her not only of my job situation, but my personal situation. I hadn't talked to her in over 2 years, but she really surprised me of how much she remembered about me. She also offered a lot of insight to my personal situation (she has had 2 failed marriages before the one that she's in now that is really thriving). Only downside talking with her was that it used up almost 120 minutes of my cell phone plan. But it was worth it as she gave me a lot to think about, from a personal level as well as carreer wise. She's going to review my resume and see what she can do for me job wise as well.

Onward and upward!