How is she noticing me when we NEVER see each other?
It's time I let you guys in on a secret. There is a website call "Marriage Crushers" by Mickey Frankfurter-Dodge, it's for WASs. Topics include - Fog machines, 360s, Bombs and other IEDs, DAM, etc. Your W has a thread on there and she is all over the changes you are making. I think your W's handle is "Mrs Deer Horns." You guys have no idea how much you are being watched. Trust me.
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How is she noticing me when we NEVER see each other?
It's time I let you guys in on a secret. There is a website call "Marriage Crushers" by Mickey Frankfurter-Dodge, it's for WASs. Topics include - Fog machines, 360s, Bombs and other IEDs, DAM, etc. Your W has a thread on there and she is all over the changes you are making. I think your W's handle is "Mrs Deer Horns." You guys have no idea how much you are being watched. Trust me.
I hope she is "all over" the changes that I'm making, Coach! Even tnough I'm not making them for her, I'm making them because they needed to happen...regardless. "You guys have no idea how much you are being watched." - I sure hope so, Coach! I trust you.
ps - I appreciate your humor.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
How is she noticing me when we NEVER see each other?
It's time I let you guys in on a secret. You guys have no idea how much you are being watched. Trust me.
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Hello Bridgestone.
It is nice to hear from you! I have always loved hearing from you, as well as reading your posts to others. How are you doing?
I sure hope she is watching!
Coach says that..."consistent, loving actions will help her see the changes are real. The analogy here is you are trying to get a scared dear to come eat out of your hand, so you must be calm, patient and steady."
I am committed to doing this. I am committed to being a better man and a better father and a better partner. But how do I show consistent, loving actions when we NEVER see each other?
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
I think you need to show consistent, loving actions towards yourself - if you see her then cool, if not, at the end of the day all of this is for YOU and your children, not her.
Treating yourself with consistency and love will make you a better father, man and partner. Now it might not make you a better parter to your W but one day, you will still be a better partner even if its with somebody else.
A while back my H said to me "whoever gets to be with you next is lucky because you have changed so much". LOL! Darn right they will be lucky! Since last July (July 08) I have seen my H a total of 5 times but we have had phone conversations and e-mails. I know I am a better me and one day that will make me a very good partner. Who will that partner be? WHO KNOWS! For now though I am my own partner and things are working out just fine in the new R I am having with myself.
I'm not sure what good the note would do. Like you said she knows you asked for forgiveness she's choosing right now not to forgive you. You haven't initiated any calls why tell her your not going to do something you're already not doing?
Hey volleydog.
I don't know. That's why I'm looking for feedback here. She already knows how I feel, and she already knows about me not initiating any communication. But what about the notion that was mentioned here that our wives want us to 'fight for them'?
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
I think you need to show consistent, loving actions towards yourself - if you see her then cool, if not, at the end of the day all of this is for YOU and your children, not her.
Treating yourself with consistency and love will make you a better father, man and partner. Now it might not make you a better parter to your W but one day, you will still be a better partner even if its with somebody else.
A while back my H said to me "whoever gets to be with you next is lucky because you have changed so much". LOL! Darn right they will be lucky! Since last July (July 08) I have seen my H a total of 5 times but we have had phone conversations and e-mails. I know I am a better me and one day that will make me a very good partner. Who will that partner be? WHO KNOWS! For now though I am my own partner and things are working out just fine in the new R I am having with myself.
Hi CityGirl.
I am doing just as you said in your first sentence. It bothers me to see her, like yesterday, because it makes me hurt...and I miss her a lot. I AM doing the work for myself, because it needed to be done...period, and my kids will benefit too! So will a future partner...I just would like for it to be the mother of my children.
I already am a better father than I've ever been, and I'll continue to do that work. I am a better man than I've ever been too, and I will continue with that work as well. I will be a better partner than I've ever been, and I have no intentions of ever stopping that work!
I think whoever you wind up with will be a lucky dude! Seeing him 5 times in a year isn't much. You sound like you have a great attitude, and are comfortable with being alone right now, and you sound very strong. I'm doin' better, I just miss her, and sometimes it really hits home. I'm sad about what's happened in the past...lots of remorse, and I'm sad that our family is broken apart, and I'm sad about our current situation. But I'm going forward. I am a better man, and I just want to be stronger and more powerful than I've been since this has all happened...I'd like to be more secure and confident than I've been since all of this has happened too!
I wish good things for you CityGirl too! I always appreciate your input.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
Hey...it's kinda hard to 'hit and run' flirt via text or E-mail. Besides...I don't know if she's anywhere near to being receptive to something like that. So, is the consensus AGAINST writing the note like my father-in-law suggested?
ps - Thanks for coming back, aliveandkicking!
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
