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[mishka422]

You are all too darned good! So much to reply to...where to start.

How about if I start with what transpired during the lawn service that led to a miserable afternoon.

Gabe, in usual fashion, started nit-picking on Marc while he was mowing the grass. He apparently wasn't doing a good enough job because he was missing spots. Well, he's only done this once before - give him time to learn! I figure that whatever he doesn't get this time he can get next time. Not Gabe, oh no, Marc has to do it perfectly right now. So, they ended up in a shouting match in the front yard. Marc was so upset with his dad that he put the lawn mower away and jumped on his bike and disappeared. Gabe was in the back yard trimming weeds and didn't know he had left. I was in the house doing some work and wasn't concerned about Marc since he was outside with his dad. Bad mistake on my part! Why would I expect Gabe to keep an eye on him? He's not responsible for him anymore, I am. Marc had been told the day before that he was not permitted to go anywhere on his bike yesterday because he was an hour late getting home the day before. He took off anyway. Not only that, he wouldn't answer his cell phone. I spent 2 hours driving around through all the subdivisions on our side of town looking for him. There are golf-cart paths that wind through the trees and over culverts all over the place here. Plenty of places to wreck a bike into a tree and end up dead or severly injured in a spot in the brush where no one would find you. Needless to say, I was scared out of my mind.

All of that happened why? Because Gabe's expectations for Marc are unreasonable and he doesn't understand the concept of leaving well enough alone. When Marc came home he flat out told me, "Dad's expectations are too high!". Strange thing to be coming out of his mouth.

Lisa - That is a really funny idea!!!! Get CG to come help with the lawn and make sure Gabe sees him there. That would be priceless! Alas, I'm not ballsy enough to do that plus CG is extremely busy trying to rennovate the fixer-upper house he bought.

Mike - The sharp object idea is really growing on me! I'm sure the broom does have something that needs trimming but I'm not even going there right now. HA!

or if he still has feelings..well he may do something else..

Something else? Too late. No way.

Kim is seriously jacked up. She uses badly twisted logic, doesn't she? Hmmm....she doesn't know how being away from her will effect Caleigh emotionally? As long as she hears her mommy's voice a few times during the week away, she will be just fine! She'll be at the beach playing, making sandcastles, flying kites, and generally having a wonderful time! What more could a little princess want? Kim needs to get a clue - of course, batchitt crazy and clueless seem to be synonyms!

Donna - I like that idea. Of course, I have one entire side of my garage full of stuff to hold a yard sale but I would need to have a Saturday off to do that. The strange thing here is that in GA yardsales are held on Friday and Saturday or Saturday only. In CA the yard sales were all on Saturday and Sunday. I guess since this is the "bible belt", no one does Sunday. So, if I took on someone else's stuff, I'd still have the problem of no day to do it. I'll ask around though. Maybe I can manage a Saturday in July sometime. Very interesting idea.

Ali - I love the positive spin on the sitch, but you don't know Gabe. As you might be able to tell from the description above of the contentious happenings yesterday, it's all about control with Gabe. He can't control his own life so he controls the only person he can - Marc. It's not pretty. I do think that I stopped trying to see the "glass as half full" when it comes to Gabe. He will not change and things will not improve with him in any way so I'm not going to hope for that anymore. That being said, the healthiest thing I can do for myself and for Marc is to keep him as far out of our lives as possible. Every other weekend is quite enough for my poor little stressed out son.

A court summons for the water bill? Seriously? They don't just turn it off until you pay it? That royally stinks! How in the heck are you managing to live?

One more thing on this long, crazy post.

I had a coffee date last night with a man I met online. He was nice but totally not my type and I wasn't his type either. We did decide we might get together again sometime to play trivia at the pizza place or go bowling but there wasn't any kind of chemistry. I stepped out of my comfort zone big time and lived to tell about it. Whew...... I will say that I'm probably not going to do that again though. I realized very quickly that I have been out of the pool FAR too long to be able to do that again. C'est la vie!