Newly separated...spouse left, 4th thread

[antlers]

Good morning aliveandkicking.

Thanks. We all struggle from time to time...sometimes it's a lot harder than at other times. I've been keeping up with you, and I know you're torn. I'm sorry. I know this living in limbo crap is awful and hard...it's heart-wrenching. The pain and lonliness gets pretty bad sometimes. Sometimes, the pain, lonliness, and remorse are so great...it seems like it's too much to bear. I've just gotta be as strong as I can, and get through it.

I saw my wife yesterday when I was picking up my daughter from swimming. See didn't see me. My wife is the treasurer for the swim club, and she has to go by there occasionally. She looked absolutely beautiful, and I felt some hard pain because I miss her so much. She, like myself, is also in the best shape that she's been in in about 18 years. I'm still struggling with things today. It hurts pretty bad.

My father-in-law thinks I should write a one or two sentence note to my wife reconfirming that I'm sorry for all I've done to her and the kids, ask for forgiveness, and tell her of my continued desire for reconciliation and that I will no longer initiate any communication with her adnd will wait until she wants to communicate with me...and then don't call her whether it is one week or one year from now.

I don't know about this. She knows that I'm sorry, and I have asked for forgiveness, she knows how I feel about her and our marriage, and I haven't initiated any communication with her at all since April 30th. I don't know wheteher I should do this or not. Nothing is happening in this limbo, with 'us' anyway...at least it seems and feels that way.

I don't even know what I'd say, or how I would word it! Any help, or suggestions?

I don't want her to think that I'm pressuring her or trying to control her. I only want to show kindness and not put any pressure on the situation at all.