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[AliSuddenly]

Hey Mish.. I really like Donnas idea!! My house is a mess with stuff everywhere from my college course, but if a hard up friend offered to come take the stuff away, sort through it and sell it/whatever, I would say yes and they would be welcome to the cash! Theres always craigs list or ebay etc.

As for Gabe.. I didnt read taht at all as him doing things for you, or overstepping your boundaries.. I saw it as Gabe wanting to bond with his son in a kind of manly, hey I'll help you with the garden, kinda way. I'm guessing this is easier for them, things must be awkward with the D and him being with the broom and I read that men find it easier to bond/talk whilst being physically active. So on that count, I would go for option 4 (?) where you say its great that Gabe chose to hang out with Marc and set him a good example by helping him with chores/gardening, but please can he let you know in advance/ask first next time that he intends to come over so that you are aware he's going to be at the house? Thats a polite way of setting boundaries?

Sorry about the finances.. me too.. I have a stack of unpaid bills, I cant pay the electric, I have a court summons for hte water bill, bailifs letters for something else, bf found out yesterday I defaulted on the cc again and I cant pay the rent. I cant complain, because he will be moving back in which will help, but seeing as that wont reverse my tremendous debts though, I do know how horrible and stressful it is.

xxx