Oye chica. There's an awful lot going on here, which is why you're spinning. You might think about cutting this Thang down into more digestible chunks, running it through the food processor or something.
For example, why try to define every boundary today? Set one. See how it works. Preferably a non-negotiable one. And don't assume these things have to be written in stone, right? If you set one and it doesn't work for you, or it doesn't work for him (and its not working for him is trouble for you), revise, rethink, relook, redo.
Perhaps you have too many balls in the air while simultaneously trying to spin plates, "Sabre Dance" cooking in the background, while Ed Sullivan looks on in horror.
Sometimes working your mojo means knowing when to stop.
