Last night her GF came over to her apt and W wanted me to come by and pick up the kids. Told her I couldn't, had to work.
This morning I called to talk to kids and she answered. She onky answers when she wants something.
I told her that I would have to mail her child support to the state since it still hasn't been deducted from check.
Her tone changes and she says, it's hard, it's really hard. I paid $200 for summer activity fees the other day. I told her that this is hard for me too, I was talking about adjusting to less money coming and she quickly cut me off.
I showered, went to get kids and attempted to make eye contact. She wouldn't look at me. When I treid to talk and look at her, she looked down. I stopped talking and she would look up but not directly at me. I started talking and her eyes would go down.
I guess she is trying to open up about her financial issues.
Honestly, I don't want to hear it. This is what she wanted.
But I know, I need to learn to listen to her and get a line of communication open; other than email or text.
You are trying to save your job? Whats going on there? Are you having trouble focusing at work?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
The W is ticked because I busted her in a lie. She wants me to give her money to pay for summer activity fees for the daycare, and she now gets child support. I really want to help her and I know I shouldn't.
I'm not, but it just hurts that the kids are stuck in the middle.
D8 has already said that she talks about me all the time to her friends.
Today when I busted her in a lie about the tuition. She started throwing jabs saying that I was asking for pity for my cause. I had no idea what she was talking about, I mean I knew but I haven't talked to anyone ately about out sitch. I just replied back to her and said - Please leave me alone.
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