Wondering how to handle things

[MrBond]

Okay, first thing to do is take a deep breath.

Next step is to forget what he said. Our WAS's have a tendency to blame us for their own unhappiness. They'll say that "we said something" to make them upset, yet not tell us what that is. My W's been doing that when we S'd.

There's no sense trying to figure it out or overanalyzing it. Just calm down and try not taking blame for something you didn't even know you did wrong. It could just be his own anger and frustration. Don't let it become yours.