My H started out just asking me to meet him for coffee a few times. He would eventually ask about dating. I suggested spending some time doing active things we both could enjoy - like a picnic, a movie, dinner. He would call during the week just to say hi and casual talk about the week. Then spent some family time together. He always tested the waters for a kiss or hug.
What got to me -was his persistance in pursuing me, his sharing with me the changes he was going through, share the support he was getting and new info learned. He was open with me, I could hear the changes in his thought process. I gradually knew that things would be the same because his thinking was changing.
I have to admit that I was really checking out of the M at the time. When initial attempts to engage failed, I felt our fate was sealed, but at some point things shifted. I felt the difference in his talk, manner, way of doing things. Has been consistent. I wasn't convinced easily. I thought I would be stupid to trust him again. He changed my mind with his talk, his and his behavior. He really has no shame when it comes to me. I have seen his ego get in the way with everything else in his life except me - sometimes yes, but mostly no. I think it is hard to be that open with someone - but he has always been that way with me. It lets me know that we are bonded positively.
