I took a cute pic of baby at the zoo and sent it to some friends and exh.
exh: Where are you? me: the zoo exh: with who? me: some friends. Baby loves it! exh: sounds fun. exh: Maybe sometime we can take her to the zoo. me: maybe (i didn't know what else to say) exh: Damn I wish i was with you guys..I don't care what your bf may say.
I didn't respond. He wants to go to the zoo and play happy family and then go home and play town slut!
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
What kassie said...I also don't think you are detached from him PLEASE stop reading his emails it doesn't help you at all. I know you know this but nothing good can come of it. Right now the way he is you deserve so much better.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
great to hear you had fun at the zoo! I'm not on here much, so you can always get in touch with me on FB, I think I have you on there, if not, search for Crissy Seamster
have a wonderful week!
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Not doing so well today. D20 came home from work last night after dropping off coworker again. Guess married womans car was at exh's. I need to tell my daughter I don't want to hear this stuff but she herself is irritated and angry with it so I don't want to deal with that alone.
Why am I surprised? Why does it still hurt? I really wish he was more like the typical WAS who just kept walking and never opened his mouth or looked back. My IC (when I was going) said I am so incredibly lonely that any crumb from anyone even exh makes me feel better.
Today...starting over again!
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Wow. I typed that so fast I didn't realize it didn't make much sense in places...sorry. I meant I didn't want my d dealing with that alone.
I realized its been almost one year (late July) that I kicked him out. I was hoping to be farther along mentally by now.
I wonder how one could still have feelings for such a horrible man? Seriously! He isn't a good person, has done horrible things to me and my children, yet I still care what he does. Don't get that.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Don't get it either. But, it is where we are now and we just need to keep working on getting unstuck
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
I get it... we don't choose who we love... we only get to choose how or if we will act on it.
I look at this way, the last time my exh got angry, I put him out. When I sat down with my d. she asked me if she had to hate him - I told her she didn't have to hate him. She told me that she knew he was doing bad things but she still loved him and wanted to know if that was ok. I thought about it and reassured her that we can both love someone, and not like their behavior. I reminded myself of that all the time. I just learned to choose more wisely. So will you.
