Don't get mad... but I am wondering if there is more you can do like try to sweep her off her feet? Or am I reaching here? I don't want to pretend that I know more than you do - it is your life and and R - you know best. My point has been that I keep hearing you on the fence and if it were me - I would react in kind. My H has come for me over and over again almost to his embarrassment, but at least I know how he feels about me and the M. While I wasn't taking a leap at how he feels and believing all will be fine - I knew that he wanted me and the M sober. The rest we have had to work on. He knew that I was shy about trying but was willing to deal with that, he wins me over again by his constant trying.
But I admit that I am always looking for the best in everyone and every sitch. Sometimes I am right and sometimes I am not. What do you have to lose by trying to the point of embarrassing yourself? Most men wouldn't go that far - and it doesn't always work- only you know how far you can take things. I am hoping for the best for everyone involved.
You have been a great support and help. I really do appreciate your effort and time.
