Yes, I've soft-pedaled it up til now, but I believe she is insane. You need to get it through your head that the winner in this little game of "Let's you and him fight over me" is actually the loser. Any man who tries to spend the rest of his life with this woman will suffer constant emotional torture. You will certainly do better by finding a different woman to spend your life with.
I know you enjoy the sexual athleticism. But don't believe that she is the only woman with a healthy sexual appetite. Plenty of women like sex and want it several times a day. And most of them are not trying to fill a cavernous emotional hole with sex.
I do worry about the baby. But with her history of miscarriage, she is still a long way off from being a mother.
Honestly, I know this is a pro M website and that's what attracted all us folks to it...but honestly, I think you should get yourself a parachute and bail. Buy a small on for the baby for when the time comes when she gets bored with that.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
She tried to send me an email but ended up sending it to herself. I'm not sure if this was deliberate or not - that's how little I trust her now. It read:
Hello GH31,
I have been in Bournemouth staying with [mutual friend of ours].
My flight arrives at 8am, hopefully I will see you at the airport.
W
She did talk before she went about spending time with this mutual friend of ours who is gay. So, I haven't received the email but I think that she tried to send me one. She hasn't tried to send any to OM as far as I can see.
To be honest, it has been over 5 days since I have seen or had contact with her. I am realising just how poisoned my life is at the moment as a result of battling for my marriage and having her in it, like toxic waste has flooded it. I have been speaking to either my mother, sister or father every day for emotional support and working as hard as I can. I feel more focussed at work than I have done for a very long time - trying to channel my die-hard, competitive nature into my work.
Saffie & Sara thanks very much for staying with me here.
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Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
Sending an email to you on her email shows that she suspects you are snooping in her email. Interesting, she has figured out that leaving you to run to her lover across the globe might result in being unmet at the airport! Let the woman take a cab and think about what she has been doing.
Still haven't heard what you intend to do. I suspect meet her at the airport, but I'd still stand by not meet at the airport and be moved out (are you still at her dad's place) when she gets back. If you have a place with her, then I'd use this time to box her stuff up and have it waiting on Saturday on the front step and the locks changed (and be gone).
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
"in fact I have also intercepted emails from her to OM saying she's considering termination - she doesn't want to kill a baby but isn't happy about this pregnancy - wishes it was OM's. She doesn't want to cause OM any more pain and have him raise another man's child but that he might grow to love the child."
there comes a time for cutting losses and ties. SteveM
GH - You may have some faults, but nothing compared to the crazy heartless selfishness your W exhibits. I would put an end to this man on a string yoyo pain you keep going through. I would not meet her at the airport. I would see a lawyer about filing for a D pronto and find out what options there are for the pregnancy.
It is time to move on with your life. There are many thousands of good single gals in Sidney that wont fly out on you to meet up with some POME.
It looks like it was an oversight on her part - it's true that waywards have a very short attention span.
I am absolutely determined that I do not exercise poor judgement in choosing a mate again and will do whatever it takes to learn what the bad signs are. Obviously I didn't see them before.
It goes without saying that I will not be meeting her at the airport. I have called a friend of mine who owns a removals business who can move me out next week - not soon enough, so I am going to rent a truck and do it myself. I have found out how much it costs to get mail redirected and to put things in storage.
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
