Well I had been going back and forth, on what to do about this whole OM new daddy thing. Really there isn't much I CAN do other than voice my concerns. The opportunity presented itself today for me to do just that.

My ex called while I was picking up the kids. She wanted to know if I would watch the kids tomorrow night for her. At first I said yes, I was a little distracted because I was talking to the daycare lady. I remembered I have an appointment at 5:30 tomorrow, I said we could loosely plan it if she could have the kids here by 6:45-7:00pm.

I also told her that her stuff would be in the driveway and if it was raining it would have a tarp over it......and then I broke it down. I don't care how this affects my ex either.

I said listen, I don't care what YOU do. You could travel to timbuktoo (??) and get married tomorrow. I don't care, but when it comes to these kids, you need to be a mom and handle your business. I said if your going to bring OM's around our daughter you need to be responsible and answer the questions she has. She is a smart little girl and you need to talk with her.

I told her you don't have to go in to detail, but you need to handle it, because when I hear her say "is OM gonna be my new daddy?" It tells me that this is not happening right now. Stop being selfish and self centered and be a mom.

I was very firm, she sounded like a mouse. It took her off guard. She tried to tell me that she asks her the same questions, and I said, I have not brought anyone around her.

I haven't felt this good about an interaction in quite a while, not because of the fact I was telling her like it is, just the way I worded things the tone of my voice and the confidence I had. She barely said a word and when she did it was so quiet I could hardly hear her. I know this surprised her, it was not my intent. This has nothing to do with her and everything to do with my kids.

I have never seen my daughter act the way she was acting last night, and no matter what she deserves BOTH parents taking good care of her and looking out for her best interests.


Don't stand still.