I am also glad to hear that you are okay. I believe love is something that needs to be fed and nurtured to continue to grow. You can't just leave it alone and expect it to survive, let alone feed your core.
I am sorry if it truly has come to this end. He has to give too and sadly doesn't seem to know how in the way you need. He is like a lost child that is tired and worn out and doesn't want to listen how to do what needs to be done to survive. Do you feel peace at all now?
Hugs dear lady. kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Glad you guys communicated but sad that he doesn't feel the love for you as a wife/woman vs. mother of his kids. I think that is what my H feels, too. It is too bad he cannot re-discover the love, if it was there before it could be again. But of course you already know that.
Sorry about the fire, what a loss...hopefully new green things will grow up from the ashes. Take care sis.
Wow! That fire was close! We've had some pretty big fire near us in the past few years, but near in terms of 5 to 10 miles, not a half mile! Ours burned for days, but there was never much danger to any inhabited areas.
I'm sad that he said he wanted back, but it is becoming clear that he didn't mean it. I'm hoping that maybe in the meantime you've learned that much more about yourself! Since I like to make lemonade when life hands us lemons! I don't want to think it was wasted time!
Hi guys, I think I may have to face all my remaining fears and push a little bit here. I asked H about the vacation today. His plan is to join me and the kids after he returns from his trip, for 5 days and then take the kids alone on vacation. I feel that is ...bullshit as my fav Bill says. Why would we sleep in the same room for 5 days, pretend we are family and at the same time he says he will take the kids on his own again as if ware divorced? That has been discussed a few times and I always pushed to find out the logic behind it. Right now, it doesnt go with MY logic so I guess I have to make that clear to him.
He has been calling, warm and friendly and he reminds me of a a funny thing I saw recently by a good comedian here, a couple many years married are talking in the kitchen and she asks "do you want to have sex" and he says "sure!!". So, she answers, lets go!!! He looks at her totally confused and shocked and says "what? among us?"... K
I think you're right that you need to push a little bit- if you don't want to share a room for 5 days as a pretend family then tell him that. Maybe he can join you but in a separate room if he wants to? Or maybe not join you and the kids together at all?
I dont understand that.. he wants to holiday together as M and then carry on a holiday with just them alone !?? Is that because your and his leave dates dont tie up or something, or is he going to arrange it that way?? That makes no sense at all. Can you say, we go together for a week/two weeks, if we are together and if not, why not ?? Or is that what you meant when you said its been discussed already and you dont understand his logic?
I dont understand his logic either and I'm at a loss to know what to say to you, other than, I'm always here for you..
Love Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
