I have no words to describe my amazement at just how low your wife will stoop to win some kind of victory over you or even just to inflict additional pain on you. It truly defies words.
I'm inclined to agree with Jeff that things seem to be reaching a critical mass regarding your wife. She has shown no hesitancy to take ANY step that she thinks will destroy you. You should not assume that ANYTHING is off limits in her mind.
Yes, you have to protect yourself and thereby indirectly protect your children. Without you they are at her mercy. If it means no sleeping together then you must be willing to stop it for now. I have no problem whatsoever believing that she would try to paint you as a child abuser.
Understand our frustration for you regarding the length of this process. It baffles my mind when I see you post about how long it would take to get divorced if you chose to move out. Look at how long it is taking to get it done NOW???
Press your lawyer Frank. Make it clear to her that the priority is now to at least move this process far enough along that the physical separation can occur and a formal parenting plan put in to place. Even if it means paying rent to live in the house or some other such nonsense, it would be well worth it to be done with the daily attacks. There MUST be a way that a seasoned attorney can move this along at least THAT far more quickly than it is moving now.
You have to find a place of peace Frank. You need some time on your own, time to decompress, time to be around normal people, time to be alone. Work is not a place of peace - though I'm sure it's preferable to being home and facing her drama.
I too am worried about you. I cannot begin to imagine the madness that you are dealing with, the never knowing what's coming next. Find a way to be like teflon my friend.
Standing by, wishing any of us could do more to help.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
