]I guess my initial fear was what real world experience does this guy have that he could help me? I guess I didn't think about fresh new ideas.
See, you went right to the negative before you even explored or got to know the C. My psych is Indian and *very* hard to understand and about 60 years old. So I could have said "geez, this old geezer who I can hardly understand that is making me follow this hard ass plan of his really sucks" or I can say what I said "thank GOD this expert got me in, is making me follow a plan that is healthy and he and I can have some laughs during stressful sessions about me trying to understand him".
What exactly do you think C learn in school? Sure, we all draw on real world experience but the human mind has been studied up and down and no matter how times change, the mechanics of the mind remain pretty much the same. Maybe you can relate better to a younger person. Dont just jump to the negative all the time. Its really starting to get on my nerves.
I do need to learn how to be happy without my W. That is a must.
Well, we keep telling you that and you keep saying you must but so far you arent doing much. Time will tell.
I don't know if she will return to me or not if I am happy without her.
Right now she will not return to you. Its the reality of it all. Dont expect it, dont dream about it and dont plan on it.
I think I was just a little skeptical is all.
I will give it an honest try with the C.
Well, you have to give *something* an honest try so why not this? You get so angry when your W judges you but you did the same thing with the C. You judged him before you knew a darn thing about it.
I did read that being a psychiatrist you can make I think between 167k to 247k a year. I thought that sounded pretty decent.
Again, money, the outside factor and should have no bearing on your happiness. Dont know if this is the normal but at the major med school in my area (one of the best in the country) they dont accept anybody over the age of 28. You alarm me that you are so focused on money.
I was not griping about my kids. I am concerned about them. Especially D7 seems to be having a lot of emotional outbursts lately. I'm quite sure it has to do with the separation and knowing about the D. Their world has been turned upside down. The rug has been pulled out from beneath them and they had no say in the matter. They probably don't know what to expect next.
I'm just concerned.
Just like you, your kids need counseling. You can say you are concerned but what are you going to do about it? As a co-parent you need to talk to your W about getting your kids some help.
