Do you know when he's skipping town again? Is he just going to vanish and then you will be left not knowing what it's going to be like when he comes back again?
I think he is leaving town again in July. Honestly, I can live with that.
I am not sure if it is better to let my kids have as much time with him as possible when he is town or if it is too confusing. This is their dad, that is his lifestyle. I can't imagine if he is gone for another month insisting that he stick to the twice a week plan when he returns. However, I can't imagine living like this indefinitely. In the fall, we will be forced to deal with living arrangements (if it doesn't happen sooner)...
He has two days designated for him and I know in advance so I can make plans for myself. If I had plans with the kids this afternoon, I would say no to him. I'm just not sure I want to say no just to say no and I am not sure that I want to be rigid about our arrangement, just not clear on how that serves me or the kids right now.
The main issue that bothers me is that his days are his days and I don't interject myself in his days. So, maybe (here's an aha moment) I can designate my two days to be with just them and the other days can be more flexible...that could feel more equitable.
