I don't have any real insight, other than to say that you're not alone.
My W and I S last year when I found out she was fooling around with her boss. She moved back in Dec. to help with our D who has a health problem and has been home since. We get along great when the kids are along and if you were to look at us, you'd think everything was fine.
However every time I bring up the R, she tells me the same line "I just don't want to be M any more." I ask her why and she just tells me the same thing which is frustrating as hell. I think there's always hope, but there's only so much that we can do. There comes a time when the spouse has to put a little effort in or positive actions. I told my W that if she is that unhappy with the M and if she really believes that the M and I are the reasons why she is so unhappy, then she should leave.
She hasn't moved or done anything towards seeking a D, so it confuses the heck out of me.
Just understand that you're not alone. And if you want to continue to have faith that the M will work out, that faith is in you.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
