It's automatic when you feel it

[CharlieBrown]

But Mama, isn't this the essence of the catch-22 that Cinco and so many of us are in? For many of us, if we completely back off, our spouses will be in their perfect marriage and like it exactly that way. Plus, the HD spouse's resentment level continues to build because of bottling up the desire. I hear what you are saying, but not sure it works in all situations.

CB