Well my H sent me, via email a divorce/separation agreement that doesn't include child support. I called him to remind him I'm not ending my marriage electonically and reminded him, I am moving, I'm leaving this town. He got worked up and said he didn't want to talk to me anymore. I said OK. So much of the last 7 months have been completely his say and the way he wanted them. So now, I feel better having made some decisions for me. I don't really want to take our son away from him, but a very good loved one made a good point: If you are neurotic and crazy, how much good are you going to be to your son? I plan to leave for about a year to 18 months, go home. Heal. Get my head on straight and my heart back in position for my new life without h. So I feel for you Volleydog. It sucks.