Based on your profile it appears that you have several children old enough to speak up in family court. If you can get your kids to tell the judge that you are their primary caregiver and a safe and stable father, it will help your case a lot. You need to do everything you can to keep your W from alienating your children from you. Some courts will make it part of your custody agreement that you can't badmouth each other as parents. Some states you can actually lose primary custody for badmouthing the other parent. You need to find out the laws in your state and if you don't have a lawyer yet it is time to get one.
