I am indeed sorry to see that she has taken full leave of her senses. To attack their father with the law in front of the kids.
But she is "entitled" after all. Her life is coming apart and she must blame you for it.
You of course will need to counter motion.
In the interim Frank, as hard as it is you need to keep the kids out of your room, especially your bed. You need to take the kids to thier doctor for any checkups and such. Be careful even when showing affection. The kids will understand.
You have no choice now. You need to protect yourself. If the order specifically stated that you are sleeping with your kids, there is no stopping her accusing you of anything. You need to take steps or you will get tossed out or if it becomes a slug-fest, the kids may end up in a foster home or something.
As hard as it is, you must focus on your future and not the present. Just look at your posts recently. Every day, all about her. Constant one-upmanship on each other. Ballgames, who gets them from the bus, who has what time, and now a missing phone.
She will win that war FIB. She has nothing else to do all day but make your life h-ell. She has the full support of her parents. You have nothing.
Stop playing her game. Let her win more than not. Better to throw down the sword and walk away than to be destroyed. Yes, turn your back on the emperor. That is how to survive in the end.
All this sh*t ends with the divorce. Then she cannot hurt you the way she is now. You (and she) get to do what you want with the kids when you have them.
Get the divorce done. Work with your lawyer to get it done. It has been over a year. What is the delay? Why has your lawyer not made her an offer yet?
The focus should be getting it done - not point/counterpoint with her. Everyboby loses that one. You cannot prove she is unstable or a threat to the kids. And unless you can prove that kids are in harms way, you two are fighting over parenting approach. And the courts will not step into that.
Don't use the courts to battle each other. Use the process to get it over with.
