Over the Shock and GALing 5

[AlexEN]

Hey Thinker,

I like it, but to me, it would sound better without these four lines and if you replaced the "." after instead with "?"

Will you?

It would help me very much if you could,

...and maybe it would help you too.

Take care of yourself.

By saying it would help you, it doesn't keep it "about her". By telling yer it might "help her", she might feel you are trying to "fix" it. "Take care" may almost come across as telling her what to do rather than how you intend it...

My version of the same to Mrs. AEN would be:

On Saturday night you spoke longingly of your father. It made me feel that you still miss him or need him. I could never fully understand how you feel and how it affects you because I have not experienced the same loss and pain as you have here.

But, I do understand loss and I do understand pain. You are my wife, my friend and the mother of my children, and I really care about you. I want to try to understand the loss and pain you've been through. I want to listen just to hear, not because I believe I can fix it for you.

I know that it is difficult for you to talk to me about this, and I understand, but maybe you can write to me about it instead?

My two cents...