Mindblank #4 - Can I borrow some meds?

[mindfull]

Mike:

Fog lifting = my observation (not a hopeful either, real observation)

We had to really work together (ALL five of us) to pull this grad party together for so many people. H and I really do that well. A good team.

Then, most of my family was there (H's isn't local so couldn't come), and friends that he was comfortable with. He enjoys them all. He enjoys entertaining. He really enjoys having all of the kids around, too.

Late last night, and yesterday am upon waking, he was truly present, more present than he has been in awhile. Seeking me out to talk about the party, the night, how D18 had really enjoyed herself, laughing about our dog livin' large at the party, our S's thinking that they were "in" with the teens allowing them to hang, bonfire, etc... If we were talking, and I would think he was done, and get up to do something else, he would add something else.

He was just more present. We'll leave it at that.

And, the conversation w/D18... I wouldn't say I took the lead, but I had the data in hand (had done the homework - talked w/her teachers to make sure poor grades were correct, handled the community college appointment, application, etc...), so I talked more because of that. He may have said less, but his impact was greater. He can get her to understand better than I. D18 is just like me, and I'm w/her non-stop, sometimes feel like white noise (to a teen? SHOCK! LOL) But, since he's gone a lot of the week, and wasn't in the thick of the "homework" he could see a bigger picture, and explain better to her.

So, take the lead? Probably a fair statement w/our history. But, he definitely has the greater impact, but lets me gather the info, present it, then he can help make sense of it.

Hope that makes sense.