Wish I could read her mind (9) >>>>

[steady]

I agree with Bill. Her attempt to refrain the past year is now part of her rationalization of what she is now doing. I watched my W do it over and over. Reframing our past, reframing my behavior, and she's now reframing my present behavior as if I'm still doing the things that I used to do - the difference now is I know I'm not doing those things.

I didn't get the sense throughout Tim's journey that he was being a puss or a doormat. Maybe he could have GAL'd more, but no one knows where that would have led. He did what he did. Period. Can't change the past.

Present time - Tim focus on you and what you need to do to make yourself happy. As MfT once told me, she comes last now. Behind you, your job, and anything else about YOU. Stick her in the back of the line now.

She's breaking the promise you two made about not having anyone else involved. She's testing the waters before she's even split with you - looking for that parachute.