My wife is like Teflon. She never seems to let any responsibility stick to her but she will be the first to say that I or anyone else is not behaving responsibly. She has real jealousy issues yet she has a pattern of infidelity to her boy fiends and now me. I am in the process now of waking up to realize that this woman that I looked up to and admired for her strength and conviction is actually a very selfish and scared little girl with delusions of entitlement.

There has been a very deep connection with us in the past and she has relied on me for emotional support without knowing and giving next to nothing in return for almost a year now.

If I were to take her back after all of this none of my friends and family will understand why and at this point I am trying to figure that out too.

She came clean to her mother about her "affair" and to me that is huge, she said she was ready to talk to me about what ever I needed to talk about to heal but then when she found out that I had a moment of doubt about our relationship, she decides it might not be forgivable. It leaves me standing here thinking. God.....what if I hadn't lost faith in the marriage just that one time? Would we be happily working on the marriage.

Seems as I may have said before that she was fine with hurting me and being forgiven but when she is hurt, she can not forgive. Can this kind of selfishness ever stop? Am I wishing for too much?


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Me 36
W 28
Married 02
Separated 9/08