You referred to yourself, or to him, as a "Divorce case." That barely touches the surface and if you think that the divorce is the main problem you have, you cannot see the forest for the trees. Your divorce is the result of your problems...not the cause of them. I really mean that. Think hard on that one. See what others think.
When I re=read lots of your posts and views and mood swings and such... I feel It's a symptom, or just the culmination of many OTHER INTERNAL things...But your smug tone describing your c "The kid" was the tone of someone resisting it already. I can tell you'll probably get NOTHING out of it and that will prove....what? That you are hopeless? That ONLY W can save you...that life is over? Geez she has all the power you give her...it's like she gets to decide if the biopsy is cancerous or not b/c you don't want the "young kid doctor to fix it...". What are you afraid of? OH, he'll want you to change and that COULD mean NOT holding on to your w. I bet he even said someting to the effect that you MIGHT have to learn to be happy without her...OH NO!! Kevin that is why we all wanted you to go see someone. Of course you need that skill..
HONEST QUESTION COMING AND PLEASE GIVE AN HONEST ANSWER AND DON'T IGNORE IT...if you need time, fine. But don't BS please...
Do you want to learn how to be happy without your wife, in case she doesn't come back?
Do you think if you learn to be happy without her, that SOMEHOW that will cause her not return to you?
IOW, what fear do you have of learning about being happy without her b/c I sense so much resistance to this. Why? What are you afraid you will find in c? No one thinks you are a monster way down deep. So what's the harm of looking and fixing the stuff inside? Can you name the fear?
I wish you were half as hungry for THIS C guys' attention, or had half the clinging interest in his input, as you do for the woman divorcing you... it could change your life.
see ya later Kev j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
