I'll be thinking about you tmrw. Having just met with my H about similar issues last week, my two cents would be to really, really listen. Let him talk, validate how he's feeling, don't argue or get defensive. Just really hear him like a good friend would... If he brings up something you get emotional about, excuse yourself to the bathroom until you get it back together. If you aren't sure how to respond - you don't have to make decisions right then. Tell H you need to consider his proposals, and you'll get back to him.
You can do it - breathe deep, and pretend he's some crazy homeless guy you're listening to on the street corner... you're not taking him seriously, but you agree and validate. Good luck!
