The thing that I have learned the MOST so far is that I REALLY need to think about the things I say and the ways that I respond to H about things...and not just to H but to everyone. To REALLY think about responses prior to making them has helped me this far in not regretting too much what I say or do. Even when it is a backslide, I have been comforted knowing that I made a conscious decision to show this emotion or be true to ME and say what I think and feel. It also makes me feel like I am a much better listener which makes me feel great
Isn't it interesting that we get the opportunity to identify our challenges/weaknesses, and it's no longer just about how we relate to our S's - it's much more than that - and we're being given a chance to really reconsider how we respond, how we listen, and to be okay with our reactions - even when it's a temporary backslide. I feel the same way... I have realized I was passing judgment in many ways - both with H and others - and not really listening to understand, just listening until I had a chance to tell them how it 'should' be.
You're growing..! Stay patient. This is going to take some time, but you are doing very, very well!
