Not that this matters, but since you brought up delusions...
A psychiatrist is an MD and first, has to have 4 years of college in which they must major in a pre-med subject, including topics such as organic chemistry which many people do not pass. If their grades AND TEST SCORES are good enough, then they get into medical school which is 4 more years - with 40 hours of classroom work per week + clinic hours AND homework...then if they pass all that, they must pass their boards (which are both oral and written). If they pass those boards -and before they can touch a patient of any kind on their own, they must do an internship, and that is a year of 80-90 hour weeks in hospital, PLUS studying for coming cases, doing rounds, and if they get thru all of that, then they apply for a residency which is what their speciality is in and sometimes they have to wait up to 3 years to attend those if it's a high demand residency and in the meantime they'll do scut work at a hospital or go somewhere to do GP work, while waiting until they get their residency, and IF they do get their residency OR some residency (and hope that it's one they like and enjoy doing and are physically capable of since eyesight matters more in some, as does dexterity and an accident can ruin your field though your mind is fine) but that is 2 to 6 years of say, surgery or internal medicine and if they want to further specialize within those areas, they must do a fellowship or extra years of their residency. That makes for an extra 13 years of schooling BEYOND high school, for most physicians. So tell a High School graduate with good grades to "start ALL over" only now you'll be older, and work longer hours, and each year was progressively harder and the hours were longer... Did I mention that while these folks are medical students with college degrees, they earn NOTHING, but they can borrow 6 figures? As interns and residents, (With college degrees AND medical degrees) they earn about a starting teacher's salary...and still owe the 6 figures for their med school...
A psychologist like my niece finishes 4 years of college. Then she got into an excellent graduate program and moved to UNC where she completed 2 1/2 years of further study AND wrote a lengthy dissertation for her Master's, and is now in a 3-4 year PhD program that takes enormous amounts of research and work AND pays very little until if and when she completes the PhD and then she'll earn an academic salary...Kev, I have no idea why you chose to insult the C or other professionals with educations...
Give your c guy a chance Kev. What you went thru is called "intake" and is normal and it's par for the course. Have you never gone to any c before now? When you say things like you'll "play along"..or "go along", I'm saddened and irritated. Do you think you are doing US a favor by getting some c?
Being your c would be very hard b/c really, you want him to tell you what to do, and what your w is doing/thinking, and to predict the future. And he can't do that. No one can. Give the c a chance.
And as for the put downs of educated people...hey, No one told you not to go to school. No one held a gun to your head and said "don't graduate". You said yourself you got complacent...but you seem to resent this guy.
You can go back to school if you want Kevin. No one is stopping you, and you have a lot of free time it sounds like. Take a class in something you LOVE or MIGHT LOVE, and see where it goes. I'm taking a class in the fall & It's one night a week. I also am in a "current events' group that meets weekly and it keeps me informed, and people with different viewpoints discuss their opinions and no one gets angry, and we all learn a lot. Interesting people attend those and I've made some good friends. Maybe you'd find some of these ideas appealing. I Don't know. Nothing wrong with poker as a pasttime but it is a card game Kev. I think people are concerned that you are not understanding what we mean with GAL...maybe the c can help you with that too.
As for you "diagnosing" your wife with delusions...wow Kev. I think the word "projection" is what is coming to my mind. And "transference" maybe. I see in you, what you are saying about her. Give the guy a chance and if you think after 6 or 7 meetings that you want an older guy, so be it. But this one is free?
Don't put him down for being young either. He'll probably be much more patient and may be much less burned out than someone who has been doing this for a long time.
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